COURTSHIP (PART FIVE)

Read the earlier post on Courtship

COURTSHIP

COURTSHIP (PART TWO)

COURTSHIP (PART THREE)

COURTSHIP (PART FOUR)

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I took her arms and kissed her deeply, and she responded by kissing and romancing me too.
Few days later, I went back to her to apologize, but we ended up kissing deeply again. Now I wonder: How can I avoid her? The only plan is to have sex with her just once. Probably that would weaken my desire for her body......

Answer:- Dear young man,

sexual desire in humans is very strong. God planned it that way. His plan is that a husband and wife should have strong sexual desire for one another. But sometimes we feel sexual desire for a person who is not our marriage partner. In that case, what can we do? There is only one answer:- RUN - AWAY!!!!!! Yes we must runaway whenever our sexual desires are leading us to sin.
What you have been doing is wrong, you have not been running away. And when you told her how you love her, you were not running away from sin - you were running towards it! If you have sex with her once, you certainly will not be running from sin - you will be sinning.
Advice to you is this:- Begin running away! Decide that you will never again meet her in private or be alone with her anywhere, you said "when I see her, I die with love"
Therefore: stop seeing her often. Stop sinning in that trio and if your desire for her continues to be strong, join another choir.
Remember what God says:-
" can a man hold fire against his chest without being burned?
It is equally dangerous to sleep with another man's wife. Whoever touches her will be punished (prov 6:27,29).
God loves you! That is why He wants you to runaway from this sin that would bring misery to the woman, husband and you. Be careful.

Why do people commit adultery?
Do women commit adultery for the same reasons as men - or do women have their own reasons?

How can adultery be prevented?

Answer:-

1) New love:- A woman may say to herself, " I doubt if my husband really loves me the way he used to" She remembers the wonderful joy she had when she felt really loved. She hunger for that feeling. Another man appears and seems to care about her. Suddenly, she feels loved again. The feeling is existing that makes everything seem right - even sex outside marriage. She is tempted to believe that her love feelings Is a licence for adultery.

2) New sex:- while many women are tempted by "new love" many men are tempted by new love too. Men sometimes think, "wouldn't it be fun to have sex with someone else! Even Christian husband's have that temptations....... Just to try someone new.

3) Appreciation:- A married person (whether male or female) may be tempted when he / she meets someone who " speaks highly of him or her and enjoys listening to her or she likes the way he or she thinks and finds he or she exciting, intelligent and nice looking "
We all need such appreciation. In fact, a person's need for appreciation can be even stronger than the need for sex. And there are many sweet - talking women who know how to show appreciation to another woman's husband, of course, there are also a lot of smooth - talking men with there romantic voice, who can make a woman feel so special that she will be tempted to give her body.

4) Modern trends:- Many films, magazines, TV and social media says, " why have sex with just your wife or husband? Try someone new! Everyone is doing it. These modern trends tempt many couples to be unfaithful.
We need to watch out and be very careful!!!!!

Your second question was: How can adultery be prevented?
We believe the answer is: husband and wife must avoid each of the causes listed above and practice the ones listed below:-

1) Husband, love your wife! And she will not hunger for "new love" if you're careful to continue loving her with kind words, actions and affections.

2) Wife keep the marriage exiting. Don't allow it to become half - hearted - keep it so exciting that your husband will not be strongly tempted to look for "new sex" A man who have a jeep at home is not very tempted to steal a motor - bike outside!

3) Speak highly of each other. Stop the use of hurtful comments, tones and remarks. Appreciate each other always, learn to be more tolerant. Love each other and by having sex with each other only.

4) Refuse the company of friends that can lead you to sin. Run from temptation, Trust God to lead you to a sincere Christian world.

More questions and answers in the next edition!!!

Have a lovely weekend and keep the good flag flying.

Cheers

Written by:

Remi Badmus (MRS.) 

GIT9ja Relationship Expert/Counsel

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