PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE: A MUST READ FOR ALL
Happy New Year to you all!!!!!
I hope you had fun during the holidays..........
Just a quick reminder.......... In your relationship, friendship or marriage, remember that tolerance, love, patients, good communication, trust, sincerity etc,
are all important in every affair.
Just a quick reminder.......... In your relationship, friendship or marriage, remember that tolerance, love, patients, good communication, trust, sincerity etc,
are all important in every affair.
It's a new month, a new year, a new beginning
The choice is yours, your happiness is on your palm. Try and embrace love, it's never late and never too much.
For this post, I have decided to give answers to waiting questions on marriage; I am sure you will find it useful. Cheers!!!!!
Questions and answers
1. How can partners keep their dialogue lively?
Answer:-)
The intensity of the dialogue between the partners depend mainly on
the interest that they have for each other and their desire to always share new aspect of life.
Dialogue also requires from each of them a certain amount of creativity in finding new topics where they can share their experience and ideas.
The subjects which can be chosen are innumerable, ranging from politics, religion and art, to all the fact of every day life.
In order to find convenient subject for dialogue, it is important that one has an interest in observing and reflecting.
Dialogue is more successful if the partners have similar interest and taste or able to achieve it through a common effort. It is also the result of reserving a proper time for it and creating an atmosphere, which allows the partners to be relaxed and peaceful. This can be achieved If they appreciate each other's opinion.
Answer:-)
The intensity of the dialogue between the partners depend mainly on
the interest that they have for each other and their desire to always share new aspect of life.
Dialogue also requires from each of them a certain amount of creativity in finding new topics where they can share their experience and ideas.
The subjects which can be chosen are innumerable, ranging from politics, religion and art, to all the fact of every day life.
In order to find convenient subject for dialogue, it is important that one has an interest in observing and reflecting.
Dialogue is more successful if the partners have similar interest and taste or able to achieve it through a common effort. It is also the result of reserving a proper time for it and creating an atmosphere, which allows the partners to be relaxed and peaceful. This can be achieved If they appreciate each other's opinion.
(2) In which field is mutual understanding between partners mainly required?
Answer,:-)
There are important fields where unity between partners is most necessary, for example, goals of life, values, attitudes towards sex, children, in-law etc.
In principle, nothing should be excluded from the blending process of their personalities
Sometimes minor things can become major issues of quarrel. Even small defects, if they are not corrected, it can disturb the partners and give the impression of lack of love and consideration.
Partners should ensure that they grow simultaneously in maturity so that they may not feel communication has become almost impossible.
Answer,:-)
There are important fields where unity between partners is most necessary, for example, goals of life, values, attitudes towards sex, children, in-law etc.
In principle, nothing should be excluded from the blending process of their personalities
Sometimes minor things can become major issues of quarrel. Even small defects, if they are not corrected, it can disturb the partners and give the impression of lack of love and consideration.
Partners should ensure that they grow simultaneously in maturity so that they may not feel communication has become almost impossible.
(3) What are the attitudes which foster marital harmony?
Answer:-)
Happiness depend on sincerity, cooperation, readiness to compromise and the ability to understand and respect each other's feelings. Creativity is very important because it provide new ideas and alternatives. To forgive and to forget as soon as mistakes is detected, it is also essential for marital harmony because it helps avoid quarrels and moody silence which make conjugal life miserable.
It is useful and essential for a couple to have the courage to tackle their problems and differences as soon as they arise. It is also better to resolve.
Answer:-)
Happiness depend on sincerity, cooperation, readiness to compromise and the ability to understand and respect each other's feelings. Creativity is very important because it provide new ideas and alternatives. To forgive and to forget as soon as mistakes is detected, it is also essential for marital harmony because it helps avoid quarrels and moody silence which make conjugal life miserable.
It is useful and essential for a couple to have the courage to tackle their problems and differences as soon as they arise. It is also better to resolve.
(4) Should women take up a job outside the home?
Answer:-)
The reason why many women take up a job are mainly the need for more income, longing for dependence and personal fulfillment, the want for deeper social involvement and a desire to express their talents in a more useful way.
We must agree that a career woman deprive her husband and children much of the time which she should have otherwise devoted to them. But it is also true that she can gain in-depth knowledge of what she losses in time, bringing into her relationship with them more ideas and experiences.
Practically, a woman can take up a job outside the family and still keep her home. First of all, the motives should be sincere and valid and not a cover to hide a desire to escape family duties and responsibilities.
Moreover, the decision should be taken by the partners after weighing accurately the motives for such a step and the need of the family. In fact, both partners will together face the problems involved. Finally, the job should not be too hectic or frustrating. Preference should be given to part time jobs in a social or educational field, which are more gender sensitive and leaves enough time to look after the family.
Answer:-)
The reason why many women take up a job are mainly the need for more income, longing for dependence and personal fulfillment, the want for deeper social involvement and a desire to express their talents in a more useful way.
We must agree that a career woman deprive her husband and children much of the time which she should have otherwise devoted to them. But it is also true that she can gain in-depth knowledge of what she losses in time, bringing into her relationship with them more ideas and experiences.
Practically, a woman can take up a job outside the family and still keep her home. First of all, the motives should be sincere and valid and not a cover to hide a desire to escape family duties and responsibilities.
Moreover, the decision should be taken by the partners after weighing accurately the motives for such a step and the need of the family. In fact, both partners will together face the problems involved. Finally, the job should not be too hectic or frustrating. Preference should be given to part time jobs in a social or educational field, which are more gender sensitive and leaves enough time to look after the family.
(5) How can one cope with in-laws?
Answer:-)
The cooperation of the in-laws can be of great help to a young couples. But often it can also be the source of many problems. Differences of mentality, the tendency of some parents to interfere in the decisions of their sons and daughters even when they are married, the temperament of the young partners, are all factors which can make the relationship with the in-laws particularly uneasy and difficult.
The problems arising from the relationship with the in-laws will be easily solve only if the partners give priority to their own relationship as a couple, supporting each other and adopting a common course of action.
Answer:-)
The cooperation of the in-laws can be of great help to a young couples. But often it can also be the source of many problems. Differences of mentality, the tendency of some parents to interfere in the decisions of their sons and daughters even when they are married, the temperament of the young partners, are all factors which can make the relationship with the in-laws particularly uneasy and difficult.
The problems arising from the relationship with the in-laws will be easily solve only if the partners give priority to their own relationship as a couple, supporting each other and adopting a common course of action.
More questions and answers will come your way next week!
Have a great weekend ahead and be good to experience Love!!!!!
Cheers
Written by:
Remi Badmus (MRS.)
GIT9ja Relationship Expert/Counsel
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