MODEST FLIRTING TIPS FOR GIRLS (DO’S AND DON’T TO GET A NIGERIAN GUY)

Last week about three of my female friends came to me seeking relationship advice, coincidentally, all three of them had seminar issues – How do I get a particular guy to notice me? In-other-words, how can I flirt with a guy without selling myself short? Although the third of the three was a bit more complicated but that will be a topic for another day. 

Now I did offer my advice but in doing that it opened my eyes to this female need, so am deciding to help our sister’s out, after all that why this site exist, to inspire ourselves.  

First of all, you must note that what may seem to work in movies, (especially foreign movies) only works in movies. So we will be talking real world. So we will highlight 7 top flirting tip, I can assure you IT WILL WORK, but after reading please be kind enough to tell me your own thought and probably add your own tip as well. You never know who you may just be connecting to her future.

Ladies, when you really like a guy but it seems like he never notices you, here are a few things you can do to get his attention without looking desperate, and also things that you must, I repeat, you must never try. They just don’t work for Nigerian men. Simply. 

1. HAIR FLIPPING

You know that thing they do in romance movies in slow motion, especially in Indian romance -where the guy notices you walking past and the wind is blowing your hair freely, and he is like mouth-open-wide. Please stop wasting your time, it just doesn’t work for Nigerian men, except it’s a white Nigerian then maybe, but for the African breed, you are simply joking. 

RATHER

What you should do is make eye contact, keep the stare for a few minutes then smile and gently brush your hair to the side using your fingers. You got him! Now don’t overdo it, may once or twice is just fine. That picture is not leaving his mind anything soon.

2. WINKING

You know, walking down, he stares at you and you wink an eye at him…. I will keep this simply, never wink at a guy you are not already intimate with; unless of cause you simple need him to ask you how much. 

RATHER

Keep good eye contact with him for a while (not too long though) and just before you look away, smile. That says it all. According to Ne-yo “you can have an entire conversation without saying a word.”

3. OFFERS

Never offer to buy him a drink, it makes you look desperate and African men do not like desperate Ladies.

RATHER

You can keep a gum, sweet or something in your purse and offer him nicely, “want one?” is known to be the world’s fastest ice-breaker. If it’s a shy guy, that would have soften the flow for him.

4. DRESS CODE

Don’t dress too sexy (half naked) that idea does not work in Africa, If a guy stares at you because you have less clothes on, be sure he thinking how much it will cost him to take the rest off. But at the same time, don’t do dressing like an ancient mother; guys like their ladies sexy and hot but not naked.

RATHER

Dress modest and stylist, be up-to-date and look good. Guys need a lady they can brag about to their guys –She hot, sexy, beautiful, great sense of humour, can chat well etc. but you will never find immodest on their pride list.

5. HIS DRESSING

Until you become very familiar with him, do not directly compliment his dressing, or directly tell him you care about him, you must make him work for it. See the thing is guys prefer to ask –What does she want from me?  Than –She desperately wants me.

RATHER

Show your affections, rather than say it. For instance, when in a discussion, you can calmly fixed his clothes –tie, collar or anything. And then gently walk away without smiling, you must make it seem like you did it unconsciously, He will be – wow! She is so caring POINT.

6. DATE

Never offer to take him out on a date (this is cute and encouraged when you are already dating) but not the first date.

RATHER

To get him to take you out, indirectly inform him of a movie or a place you would like to visit but can’t go alone. Any interested gentleman would offer to take you. But caution, this is Nigeria so make sure your pick is one he can well afford and don’t overdo it least you be perceived as demanding.

7. QUICK FLIRT TEXT

Few minutes after you just met and you are already sending him flirt text. Never do this. You sell yourself cheap and Nigerian men only sleep with cheap girls and they move on to the next cheap girl.

RATHER

Wait a day or two and if he does not call, send him a circular text message. That will remind him that you exist and want to keep existing. 

So that's it. try this and am almost 100% sure he is yours, unless he just isn't your man. please do share your thoughts and maybe drop your own tips. Guys don't worry too much, you will agree with me that ladies are a bit more complicated so I will your own tips in no time. But meanwhile, don't do this....  Lol. 

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